- Your role of responsibility is going to change. No longer are you going to be in control of your child’s life choices or decisions. They are going to become responsible for waking up, arriving to class on time, finishing up their homework, eating healthy, going to work, etc. You are going to have less responsibility on your hands, which will give you more time for yourself.
- College is an emotional roller coaster ride. It’s a first-time experience that inspires excitement, optimism, and more than a little anxiety. Your role as a parent is going to require to be more supportive. It’s important that you give your kid space, but still be a phone call away. Remember, they are just as excited and nervous as you, so be available whenever they need to talk and listen to them. You need to provide support encouragement, advice, and guidance.
- You are going to be a worrywart. Whether your college kid is across the country, a few hours away, or even in the same city, they are going to be free from your control. You will always be worried about where they are at, what they are doing, and if they are staying safe. Don’t forget you are not the only one that feels nervous and anxious. They are the ones in college experiencing new responsibilities, meeting new people, and trying new things. Just remember, they are going to be busy in college with school, homework, outside activities and jobs. This is also a great opportunity for you to get involved with an activity you enjoy or try something new.
Set realistic expectations for your child. This may regard academics, financial responsibility, social environment, alcohol and drug use. Be open to communication, don’t add judgement
Encourage them to be independent and responsible. Be an empathetic listener but refrain from ‘coming to the rescue’ when the face problems. This will help them improve the problem solving skills.
Become familiar with University resources. Knowing the university will be helpful so that you can direct them to the appropriate resource for assistance.
Encourage them to get involved. Having involvement in with campus events and groups will encourage them to meet people.
Communicate. Listen and provide reassurance when communicating with them.